Sibling Rivalry: October’s Playlist
Pastors are so wise and in control of their feelings and they never fight!…that’s what I used to think, before I became one. Now I laugh at my naive self!
I am passionate about the work God has laid before me and that passion…can be misdirected sometimes when my co-workers are also passionate about a different route God has before them.
Neither of us are at fault completely,we both feel God is showing us the true way, but we have to be open to working together to make sure the work in our office gets done. Whether that’s the weekly bulletin, the website updates, leading the youth game for the week, working the soundboard, the lighting in the fellowship hall, or how the lawn is mowed. Sometimes, those tasks clash and we butt heads.
Sometimes we talk through it, but sometimes we stuff those feelings down in a box that we’ll just keep hidden below. What happens when that box overflows and explodes?
All that hurt and pain can seem like it’s coming out from nowhere, but really, it just needs sorted through a long time ago. Even now as I write this, I feel the need to keep peaking over my shoulder to make sure someone doesn’t see what I’m typing as if it’s illegal to talk about this issue we all go though. It is not healthy to hide that hurt and pain from everyone, but we do need to be wise about who and when we do share those with others.
Each situation is different so there is no answer how to resolve each problem, but hopefully this playlist can bring comfort, peace and hope knowing that conflict with our fellow brothers and sisters happens, conflict is normal, and God is working through us still. As we enter into this month on The Gathering Place to talk about faith & politics, there is no doubt a variety of opinions and perspectives on how to engage politically both on a national level…and a denominational one. Be encouraged that God holds everything together, even if we can’t quite seem to understand it all yet. Conflict will surround us until Jesus comes back, so we not only need to accept that, but learn skills to resolve the conflict before it rips us apart.
Blessings to you as God works in you and those you work with daily.
~Ashley Litwiller is pastor of worship at youth at Arthur Mennonite, Arthur, IL. Email email@example.com to share your favorite songs to include in upcoming monthly playlists!
Why These Songs Were Chosen: (and a great tool to use for conversation starters with your own youth groups)
Losing by Tenth Avenue North— “I can’t believe what she said, I can’t believe what he did” …have you ever said this to yourself? We are soldiers of God…but there are times when we start to fight each other over a variety of things. Whether they are right or wrong, or we were wrong or right, admitting we are hurt needs to happen.
Praise You In This Storm by Casting Crowns–Surely, working in a church means all is well all the time because it’s God’s work!! We are humans carrying out God’s work so not everything done will be completely of God. That is our goal, but we will fail every now and then. Before we get to working on the conflicts, we need to remember to Praise Him because this is also part of his plan.
Untitled Hymn by Chris Rice–Withdrawal yourself from hurt/fear – Come to Jesus. Sing to Jesus your worries, frustrations. Come to Jesus, whether by walking crawling, or running, just get there!
Come As You Are by Crowder–IT IS OKAY to continually come back to God in whatever form you are. We often share that with new believers, but it’s okay, healthy even, to be open and honest with ourselves about our current brokenness.
Put It On The Alter by Jessica Reedy–Don’t hide your pain away. Bring it forward!!!! Before you can move on from the hurt, you have to LEAVE it there!!
Come to Me by Jamie Grace–“I’ll give you rest from your burden” God will give us rest, we have to come to him and ask for it!
Please by my strength by Gungor--Sometimes, God is using you to help others follow him and being that rock is tough job, but stay strong! Keep praying for him to give the strength you need!
No Man is a Island by Tenth Avenue North–“I Know there’s friction here, the struggle makes us new”. We feel that friction daily sometimes. Individually, we cannot bring everyone to Jesus alone. We can not do all the work alone. We are not meant to live this life alone and we cannot rely on ourselves to get all the work done. Recognizing that we need each other is a good place in reconciliation.
Love Restores by Shine Bright Baby— Any reconciliation work cannot come from a foundation of contract or former commitment, it has to come from the foundation of love that God is in our lives. This will take time to sift down too most times, but God can do this if we let him restore it all.
Eve of the Storm (feat. Gabe Real) by Ryan Stevenson— Through a time of conflict resolution, God remains in control guarding us and surrounding us in love. Feel His comfort and peace knowing this.
Forgiveness by Matthew West— “It’s the hardest thing to give away..and the last thing on your mind today..it always goes to those who don’t deserve” …..BUT forgiving can “clear the bitterness away, set a prisoner free…there is no end to what its power can do.”
Same Kind of Broken (feat. Moriah Peters) by Jason Castro–We are all broken at times…”but we all need someone to love us where we are”. So please take a moment to lay aside differences and love each other where we are!
Brother (feat. Gavin DeGraw) by NEEDTOBEATHE–“We get a little restless from the searching, get a little worn down in between” working through conflicts is not easy, it does not feel good; it will leave marks! But we’re working towards a end result of healing. The healing process takes all your energy…so let’s be there for each other during those things.
THE River by Jordan Feliz–Just let that hymn about going down to the river to pray wash you in Amazing Grace!! Let’s go there together, we will be changed and never be the same.
Beautiful Things by Gungor–All this pain..is worth it! God makes beautiful things out of dust!! We may not see it now, but the messy conflict, gardens will come out of the ground God is creating between us now.
Simple Pursuit by Passion–“God take us back, the place we began-the simple pursuit of nothing but you” This is our reminder to let everything fade but God! Ultimately, if we’re doing His work, than its Him!
Reign in Us by Starfield–Ever since I was little, the beginning of time frustrates me because I can’t understand it! God thought of me even before my parents met each other. God is all-knowing, all-powerful….so I definitely want him reigning in me if I’m going to go do his work. “Come search our hearts and purify our lives” “We cry out for your love to refine us…define us…to keep us blameless until you return.”
Bonus: Together by Nathan Geiser (Not On Spotify) — http://noisetrade.com/nathangrieser/the-worship-project –
–This was a song sang at MCUSA Convention in Kansas City. My youth and I loved it so much, we brought it back to our church and Nathan gave us permission to use his incredibly beautiful song and message with our church family. “I will sing with you my rival, will you sing with me?” No matter our conflicts, we are brothers and sisters in Christ and that will not change. So let’s act like it and let our Lord bring us together for his purpose, for His plan. Our personal plans/purpose/thoughts/beliefs are human…God’s way is the only way. He is our God.
(Plug for Nathan here – He is just starting out, and has a new album out that he is taking donations for to help with his work. Check it out!)